Does Not a Summer Make - a photo on Flickriver

            The man here was one of my uncles. He must be dead now, but I don't really know for sure. My mother had 16 siblings and my father had 8, so there were lots to chose from, and plenty of room to maintain some anonymity, and distance perhaps. He was not the uncle that sexually abused me from the age of 12 to 14. That was another uncle entirely. 

This man was as kind as his face makes him look, a good, non-threatening man in every way.

I felt safe with him, and I was, evidently.

Further evidence from this photo seems to suggest that my parents were indeed feeding me. I had forgotten that.

What sort of trauma could make you forget that your parents loved you and fed you? 

Robert Sapolsky talks, and writes wonderfully, about this.

By the way, I will never expose him, show his image or name him. He confessed his "prolonged infringement" to the family years ago, so he is being monitored now in his old age. I believed him when he said "I didn't know what damage it would do". I will never describe what happened, as I know that there may be, sadly, those poor souls out there that enjoy such descriptions.

Drivers, what can I say?

I don't have to forgive him, but I do, and he doesn't need to know that I do. He needs to forgive himself, and I know how difficult that can be.

The girl on the left is my older sister, by two years. I have no idea who the other girl is, though she is probably a relative, a cousin I suspect. 

Abuse can generate these types of lacunae.

I like that we are fading, or glowing, or both even.

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Taken on: June 13, 2022

Sets appears in: • Drivers • Childhood more » • Atomic Cafe: The Nuclear Family • The Fungimentals « less

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